( 22 things you must do with your wife )
- Call her with sweet nicknames (the prophet use to call Aisha “Aish”).
- Play with her, some Halal game at all (the prophet used to run with Aisha) and Allah likes it when a husband plays with his wife.
- Treat her kindly and offer her everything that will soften her heart towards you (it’s a warning from the prophet on his last sermon at arafat).
- Buy her gifts sometimes even if is toffee (they love to be treated like a baby)
- Never have intercourse with her without a “messenger” eg. kisses and always make sure she is satisfied (Recommended by the prophet).
- Help her in domestic activities eg. Cooking, washing, tiding up the room, etc. anytime you are available (it’s sunnah)
- Honour her parents and buy them presents sometimes.
- Appreciate the good things she has been doing for you and be thanking her for that always. Allah says; He who does not thanks people does not thanks me.
- Let her know how much she means to you, how much you love her and how lucky you are to have her.
- Be carrying her to bed sometimes like a baby.
- Before criticizing her, praise her first.
- Make yourself attractive to her always by smelling good (both mouth and body, its sunnah).
- Chat with her sometimes when you are together.
- Phone to tell her, “I miss U” ,”I love U” when you are at work.
- Be doing things together with her, e.g. cooking, eating, bathing janabah, reciting Qur’an, praying, etc.
- Don’t reveal her fault in the presence of others.
- Teach her about the deen (Islam) what she don’t know and encourage her on matters of the deen.
- Avoid hitting, beating or harming her (it’s not Islam)
- Encourage her to be wearing Hijab (its compulsory), praying the five times salat at its fixed times and be fasting in the month of ramadan.
- Thank Allah for completing your Life.
- Always remember her in your du’aas (prayers).
- Be the path she will pass to JANNAH.
May Allah give all muslim men the understanding and patience they will need to take good care of their wives.