Stop Worrying Everything Will Be Alright – Mufti Menk

When we spend we should not be giving that which we would not like to receive. What this means is, when you’re giving people charity. Don’t give them such food or such clothing or such items that you yourself would not take.
This is a strict instruction from allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

So if you want your charity to be accepted. You must give that which you would use yourself or you would consume yourself.
And allah says

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ أَنفِقُواْ مِن طَيِّبَاتِ مَا كَسَبْتُمْ وَمِمَّا أَخْرَجْنَا لَكُم مِّنَ الأَرْضِ وَلاَ تَيَمَّمُواْ الْخَبِيثَ مِنْهُ تُنفِقُونَ وَلَسْتُم بِآخِذِيهِ إِلاَّ أَن تُغْمِضُواْ فِيهِ وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللّهَ غَنِيٌّ حَمِيدٌ
O ye who believe! Give of the good things which ye have (honourably) earned, and of the fruits of the earth which We have produced for you, and do not even aim at getting anything which is bad, in order that out of it ye may give away something, when ye yourselves would not receive it except with closed eyes. And know that Allah is Free of all wants, and worthy of all praise.
(Surah Al-Baqara – 267)

Don’t give the evil or the bad that which you’re spending but you would never take from it, remember this.
It’s a very interesting teaching of allah. Sometimes people say, well look i have left over food, what should i do with it?

Well, if it’s clean enough for someone to eat in a very respectful way, you may pack it and give it to them. Those whom you know, would appreciate it.
But you cannot throw remainders and you know, that which is left over at people, and without any respect whatsoever, treat them like animals
Simply because they have a need. You’d rather give that to the birds or give it to animals.

May allah grant us goodness, or you may want to respectfully word it to a poor person to tell them, look, i have a little bit of left over, perhaps if you would like it, or maybe you could give it to someone else word it that way, or word it in a respectful way. But remember, if we treat others disrespectfully and keep giving them a charity that is not of a standard acceptable by allah.

Then we are asking for disaster.

We are treating people unfairly and that has an effect. The effect they will not respect us. They will talk behind our backs bad about us. They won’t have the true love for us. And this is why you can give leftovers but once in a while, make them proper food.

And like i said with the conditions. Once in a while give away good things, give away that which you like and you love. Subhanallah. You really want to give a charity, give something that is honorable. Remember the charity, a point that we forget, it is for allah. It’s just that allah has put a poor person to collect it on his behalf. Subhanallah. Subhanallah. Think about it.

So when i have a charity in my hands. I need to tell myself. I’m giving this for the sake of allah this is allah that i’m reaching out to. Because he wants me to reach out to him by giving food to a poor person. That’s what it is.

When you think that way, you will automatically be respectful in the way you treat others.
Don’t throw money at someone, give it to them. Don’t throw a coin at a beggar. Give it to them the beggar respectfully. And pray for the beggar and pray that the almighty accept it from you.

Allah says
The real beggars are those, and this is now the etiquette of those who are poor. They are from amongst us many who are suffering, many who are struggling, they are in crisis.
And allah says, the true beggars or the true poor people are those whom others think that they are not even poor.
Why?

Because they have self-respect. That’s why if you can search for those in need and spend on them, spend on those who don’t beg, whom you
Know, this person is in need, but their honor, their dignity, their level, their respect, their self-respect, does not allow them to come and ask me, let me give them without them asking, and i will make them feel so good about it you know.

So you give someone a gift, and it happened so respectfully, you expect nothing in return. Why is it that in the modern world. Many people spend.
Yes. But they expect in return from the people or from the person, they want something back, at times something immoral. They want it back.

Where are those who fear allah enough to give others and still consider themselves fortunate for having been chosen to give.
So give in a good cause. Search for those who are in need, for indeed, by reaching out to them, you will achieve a lot of goodness. They will pray for you, From the bottom of their hearts, they will ask the almighty to bless you further.

They pray for you without you knowing. Simply because you reached out to them at a time of their need.

So they thanked allah by praying for you too. Wow, look at how we would achieve comfort without even knowing that there was a crisis heading for us and allah diverted it. May allah (swt) protect us.

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